Tips for Self Compassion

One thing is for certain:  for many people (particularly women) putting self-care high on our “to do” list or even the “what shall I be aware of” list can be challenging. Keeping our finger on our own pulse so to speak while we check in with and take care of others as we and attend to our daily work and responsibilities is tough. We need constant reminders to 1) keep ourselves on the list;  and 2) be sure we do not fall to the bottom of that list.

As defined by Dr. Kristin Neff, a leader in the field of self-compassion, self compassion is comprised of three elements:  mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness.  She has created several exercises (general and specific) that can be helpful for offering ourselves compassion (for further information by Dr. Neff  Click Here ).

TIPS:

1. Have realistic expectations. Practicing self-compassion requires commitment, time, and consistency.

2.  Pay attention to your body, your mood, your responses to people, events, situations.

3.  Schedule “self-compassion” breaks throughout your day.

4.  If you are a caregiver for others, discover two things to do just for yourself each day that allow you moments of peace and relaxation.

5.  Consider treating yourself in the same way you would treat a treasured friend in need, a frightened child, a person in need of soothing.

6.  Write your thoughts and feelings about something you have difficulty with in your life through a lens of support and understanding.