Resilience doesn’t mean that we are going through life without experiencing any stress. We all have stress. Many of us have experienced trauma in our lives. Resilience is more about being able to withstand the stress or trauma and then have the ability to work through the emotions and the effects of the painful events we have experienced.
1. We can explore ways to stay connected (or learn how to reconnect) to ourselves and to others.
2. Create and maintain relationships with people we can trust (family, friends, clergy, counselors) who will listen and “be” with us, and serve as a witness.
3. Develop a positive view of ourselves.
4. Examine past experiences as our sources of strength that have helped us.
5. Find healthy ways to deal with strong emotions, feelings, and impulses.
6. Build effective communication strategies to learn ways to problem solve healthfully.
7. Help others (perhaps those who have had similar experiences) whenever we can.