Many people talk about change… jobs, homes, relationships, habits, attitudes, behaviors. When we want to make changes, it helps to understand that at the core of change is making different choices from the ones we have made before. So much about change is about decision making. When we have an idea of what we are missing in our lives regarding what will help us discover and live according to a life of purpose and meaning, we can make decisions that reflect that. Once we make up our minds to change, we can deal with many things we never thought possible. And we can do what many think is impossible if we approach some of the obvious and not so obvious elements that can get in our way.
Even though we may want to make changes, we may be afraid to. What we have is familiar. How do we know what we want will be better? We don’t! But we act as if it will be, which makes it a bit easier to deal with the fear of change. Any transition is difficult (I have written about this before) and often because we don’t want to enter a “space” where we are not sure of the outcome. We feel uncertain, unfamiliar, uncomfortable. Maybe the inner voice in our head isn’t as supportive as it could be and we avoid going forward because we are afraid we don’t really know what we are doing and may fail. We can feel overwhelmed or exhausted, and that we don’t have the time to do the work that’s needed. Or, we just may not have confidence.
Some people turn their lives upside down and others take small steps to begin and keep moving toward a goal. Whatever the style, having a cheerleading squad helps. People who are supportive, interested, and helpful as you wonder if you can “DO THIS” is usually a whole lot better than flying solo. Having another person believe in you — especially when you doubt yourself — can be a great gift.