April 23, 2024

Embracing Kindness in a World of Uncertainty: Reflections from a Heartfelt Gathering

As many of you know, a few years ago Amanda Salzhauer and I co-authored THE KINDNESS ADVANTAGE. We were privileged to meet people from all over the country as we discussed how children can embody kindness considering the challenges they experience in the world. Much of our emphasis is what […]
February 26, 2024

Not Sharing Concerns with Loved Ones for Fear of Being Shut Out

I have received many inquiries from people in different stages of their lives who have one thing in common. Each is hesitant to share concerns with loved ones for fear of being shut out. They describe feeling as if they “walk on eggshells”. They are afraid of risking asking personal […]
November 1, 2023

Companions in Golden Years: The Heartfelt Bond Between Our Older Selves and Pets

I was talking with a friend who has had dogs her whole life. She adores them and could have never imagined being without one. Until now. She needs to “put her beloved dog down” which, for those of you who are unfamiliar with the term, means euthanasia. If you have […]
August 5, 2023

Thoughts on Traveling in the Age of Cell Phones

Where would we be without our cell phones? For some, it’s feeling LOST. For others, it’s feeling FOUND. And for many, a bit of both, experiencing a mix of disorientation, disruption, relief, and relaxation, each with their own unique descriptions. Recently, I traveled outside of the US, and to my […]
April 3, 2023

Few People Are Who We Would Like Them to Be

If we could all create the personalities that would mesh smoothly with our own, we might have an easier time in life’s day to day. But would we be content? Life might be more predictable, perhaps less volatile. Maybe we would have fewer conflicts. That would be good for our […]
March 11, 2023

Believing Someone Else’s Opinion of Us

When we believe someone else’s view of us that makes us feel diminished, we forget the wisdom of Eleanor Roosevelt who said: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” This does not mean that we are consciously giving our consent to feel inferior; it does mean, though, […]
September 2, 2022

The Flag Belongs to All of Us

On August 9th, Primary Election Day, I was aware of my significant internal distress. I needed to understand what was going on. I quieted myself and began to write. I write as a way to sort out my feelings which, in this case, were deeply entwined with a powerful symbol […]
July 29, 2022

If They Didn’t Want My Advice, Why Did They Ask for It?

I often get calls or texts or emails from people I know (well and less well) asking for advice in times of their confusion or distress. For the most part I’m happy to be a sounding board and I try to assist when I can. Very often these reach outs […]