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March 3, 2020

Finding Resilience When Facing Personal Hardship Experiences

When everything is going our way, life is great.  Things fall into place and we can see possibilities and opportunities easily.  We can become attached to these feelings and never want them to end.  We may expect that they will not end. Then something happens and our world changes, and […]
February 4, 2020

Tips for Attending to Someone’s Grief

For most of my professional career I have tried to help people come to terms with loss.  The loss of the child they had hoped for and the adaptation to the one they had; the loss of a job that they wanted or had; the loss of a relationship, the […]
February 4, 2020

Lessons on How to Live

As some of you are aware, my beloved mother, Sylvia Atkins, died one month ago.  A role model to almost everyone who met her, she was loving, inspirational, and lived with an indescribable vibrancy and energy.  She had a deep appreciation of life and was curious about everyone she met. […]
December 30, 2019

Tips for the Gift of Listening

Many of us think our role in a conversation is to talk. In fact, what most people seem to prefer is to have a conversation partner who is a good listener.  We may say too much, repeat ourselves to make a point (when the point is already made), talk about […]
December 30, 2019

The Importance of Hope

As the new year begins, I have been thinking about the importance of hope. For me, losing hope and then regaining hope is very tied to health. I know I am not alone when, for instance, hearing a challenging diagnosis can be the impetus for a momentary (or longer) loss […]
December 2, 2019

Tips for Travel During the Holidays

If we cannot avoid traveling during the holidays, we can try to keep ourselves as calm as possible as we embark on our journeys. Whether we travel by car, train, bus, or plane, it is likely we will encounter delays, crowds, rudeness, lost bags, fatigue, and other people’s distress. Travel […]
December 2, 2019

Sharing Confidential Information

We all agree that we expect confidentiality when we share information with healthcare, law, or professionals. There are rigorous ethical standards that guide these relationships and we all expect compliance.   Lately, I have been thinking about whether we have similar expectations in our non-professional relationships. When we share personal […]
November 4, 2019

Tips for Learning New Things No Matter How Old We Are

Learning new things is good for our emotional and physiological health.  Novel experiences stimulates the release of the chemical dopamine, and causes the brain to build connections among neurons. This is important as we age, for we can replace and activate some connections that we lose over time. The brain […]
November 4, 2019

Be and Ally and Speak Up for What is Right

Amanda and I wrote The Kindness Advantage, in part to help families positively address the increase in disrespectful and bullying behavior. Bullying can be physical or emotional and can occur at any stage of our life.   Too many of us choose to do nothing when they see or hear […]
October 2, 2019

Lessons Learned by Observing Olive Trees

Recently I visited Greece and was mesmerized by the amazing shapes and the knots formed over time in the olive trees. People have been cultivating olive trees for thousands of years BCE. As I walked through (and travelled beside) multiple groves I saw them as a metaphor for parenting and […]