Dr. Atkins’ Thoughts

June 9, 2020

Tips for Performing Acts of Kindness

Many of you have read about and heard Amanda Salzhauer (co-author of The Kindness Advantage) and me discuss The Helper’s High, a term coined by Alan Lux). The Helper’s High refers to a flood of endorphins that occurs in a person doing a kind act that makes them feel good and encourages them to do another […]
June 9, 2020

Conversation Hugs

Because of COVID-19, many of the critical ways we connect with others – person to person conversations, physical touch, hugs – have become impossible. Millions of people have turned to frequent phone calls, Zoom, and other internet platforms seeking to find ways to replace the missing connection. Often these efforts […]
May 1, 2020

Emotions during COVID-19

The outbreak of the novel Coronavirus has a way of evoking every possible emotion. The short list includes: fear, sadness, grief, anxiety, anger, loneliness, despair, and worry.   While it is understandable that we should feel many of these emotions, we face a challenge trying not to miss the opportunities […]
May 1, 2020

Tips for Deepening Quality Connections

Connection is protection.  The more connected we feel, the safer we feel.  How do we manage that when we need to practice physical distancing?  Many of us are feeling alienated and unsafe because we are disconnected from those with whom we normally interact.   It’s normal to feel anxiety, depression, […]
March 19, 2020

Tips for Staying Connected

During this period of social distancing it is important to keep connected with others, particularly for people who live alone. Now is the time to stay connected with technology (in addition to social media which can be VERY stressful).  Social support helps us to deal with stressful situations because 1) […]
March 19, 2020

Rethinking “Am I OLD?”

According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), I am “old.”  Not only that, I am “elderly.” WOW!  I have spent my entire life keeping my mind, body, and spirit as healthy (and youthful) as possible.  And I am still convinced that was (is) the right decision. These days, however, […]
March 3, 2020

Tips for Self Compassion

One thing is for certain:  for many people (particularly women) putting self-care high on our “to do” list or even the “what shall I be aware of” list can be challenging. Keeping our finger on our own pulse so to speak while we check in with and take care of […]
March 3, 2020

Finding Resilience When Facing Personal Hardship Experiences

When everything is going our way, life is great.  Things fall into place and we can see possibilities and opportunities easily.  We can become attached to these feelings and never want them to end.  We may expect that they will not end. Then something happens and our world changes, and […]
February 4, 2020

Tips for Attending to Someone’s Grief

For most of my professional career I have tried to help people come to terms with loss.  The loss of the child they had hoped for and the adaptation to the one they had; the loss of a job that they wanted or had; the loss of a relationship, the […]
February 4, 2020

Lessons on How to Live

As some of you are aware, my beloved mother, Sylvia Atkins, died one month ago.  A role model to almost everyone who met her, she was loving, inspirational, and lived with an indescribable vibrancy and energy.  She had a deep appreciation of life and was curious about everyone she met. […]